Handling Those “Oh Bless” Moments

In this episode of Coffee with M and J, Mandy and Jaime dive into what they lovingly call “Oh Bless moments”- those times when you realize you’ve seriously messed up. The idea sparked after both hosts had back-to-back “Oh Bless moments” of their own, quickly fixed them, and moved on.

They explore what to do after a slip-up, whether big or small:

• Fix It & Forget It: When you can fix the mistake right away, do it, then move on. No shame, no guilt, no marinating in the mess.
• Stop the Spiral: They talk about a “90-second rule” from a mentor, explaining how interrupting the negative emotion early can prevent a full shame spiral.
• Real Accountability: Apologies mean nothing without changed behavior. Sometimes making amends is simple; sometimes it requires a deeper shift.
• Behavior Change: When you can’t undo the mistake, you can decide what happens next. No more calling yourself names or dragging yourself through the mud.
• Grace + Truth: Find the sweet spot between giving yourself compassion and being honest about what needs to change.
• A Helpful Exercise: One host shares a powerful tool - write two columns: the story you’re telling yourself vs. what actually happened. Then create a “happy list” of lessons and positive takeaways.

They wrap up with this reminder: Fix it and forget it. Tune in for a grounded, compassionate conversation about messing up, making amends, and moving forward without beating yourself up.